Maid of Honor is one of the most prestigious titles one can hope to attain on a dear friend’s big day. If you’re the chosen one, congratulations! Your best friend not only loves and appreciates you, but also deems you responsible enough to take on the responsibility of being her right-hand, her go-to woman and confidant for one of her major life events. If you’d like to impress your friend and reinforce the faith she has in you, you’re going to have to up your game. If you’re worried about slipping up, have no fear, we’ll help you understand your role; then you can easily breakdown the essentials of how to be the best maid of honor anyone’s ever seen.
How to Be the Best Maid of Honor
Have an Open Discussion
If you’re not quite sure about what the bride-to-be is expecting from you during the wedding planning process, just ask her. Your degree of involvement will greatly depend on what the bride has in mind. Maybe she only wants you to give her company at certain points during wedding preparation, such as dress fittings, venue selection etc. Perhaps she wants you be more involved or rather take charge of the situation at large. She might want you to be her main point of contact in the event of an emergency or expect you to arrange a bridal shower.
In order to meet such responsibilities, you would have to coordinate with the bridesmaids and groomsmen to make sure everything goes smoothly. With all that said, it is also possible that your best friend simply wishes you to be a part of her wedding ceremonies without being heavily involved in the prep. It is, therefore, necessary to have an open discussion with the bride about what she hopes the maid of honor will do for her.
Lead the Show
A bride’s circle of friends will most definitely be comprised of people she met during different phases of her life; therefore, many of the bridesmaids may not already know each other. In situations like these, you, as maid of honor, can help break the ice and familiarize everyone so that social interactions can go smoothly. Getting all the ladies acquainted will make it easier for everyone to be on the same page when the time for decision making comes.
Help Her Relax
How can you be the best maid of honor when all the planning stress is driving people off the walls? Since it is easy to spiral into an anxiety-filled void—especially when you can’t get your mind off the next detail that needs to be taken care of—you, as the bride’s main support system, must remain composed and collected. Though the maid of honor is there to help with wedding preps, she must also remind the bride to stop, breath and enjoy the process. Take her out on a spa day, watch a movie together or go out for lunch. You’ll have to remind your friend to unwind once in a while. Constantly worrying won’t do anyone any good.
Give Her Honest Advice
We all need a second or third opinion sometimes. The maid of honor is someone that the bride trusts and whose input she depends on. So, make sure that you remain invested in whatever your friend needs help with. Be decisive and convey your thought process rationally whenever your opinion is asked.
You never know when certain minor emergencies may occur. As maid of honor, you should be prepared to handle such instances. For example, you could keep a bag of essentials that has wipes, tissues, a sewing kit and makeup (in case the bride needs some last-minute touch-ups). You can also stow away high-energy snacks in the bag because you never know when they might come in handy.
Make an Effort to Connect with the Bride’s Family
If you’re role as maid of honor is going to be more involved, it would benefit you to get to know the bride’s family and soon-to-be husband. Once you’re in the circle, you’ll be in the loop and won’t miss out on anything. Having all this information could be super helpful in planning a surprise for the bride. It could be something like putting together a collage of the bride and groom’s youth, a sort of walk down memory lane. You could surprise her with special at-home salon treatment. If you’re feeling particularly ambitious, you could even coordinate with the bride’s family and friends to throw her a surprise party!
With these basics down, you can go out there and show the world that you have got it all figured out. Spread your wisdom once you become a veteran in this field, which we’re sure you will be.